Understanding how to take back our power

Because of my experience of living with a man with Narcissistic Personality Disorder I have been catapulted into learning how easily I used to give away my power. Today I was working with a client and realised just how far she, and I, had come in our understanding of how it is up to us to look after ourselves and recognise where we stay in relationships which are patently very bad for us, but ‘half a loaf is better than no bread’.

Well, realising just half of our full potential is not good enough – staying in a relationship where we are food and drink to somebody who is not reciprocating is not only sad, it can be dangerous for our very survival. In the 3 years since I escaped from a Narcissist, I have been on a real roller coaster of emotion, and now I am happier than ever because I am in my power and living in a way which is true to myself. 

I receive the ‘Daily Om’ and this arrived in my in-box today, which I thought was very apposite and I wish to share it:

Daily OM by Madisyn Taylor

“Knowing when to let somebody go and leave a relationship is a true act of self-love”

Just as a good relationship can have a positive impact on your life, stressful, draining, or imbalanced relationships can have negative effects on your health and well-being. It’s common to maintain a relationship because we feel the other person needs us or we believe that they will eventually change. We may also be afraid of hurting the other person or feel insecure in our ability to find new relationships. But knowing when to end a relationship and acknowledging that the pain will pass can often prevent greater pain and feelings of loss in the long run. 

If you’re in a relationship that isn’t satisfying or one that has become unhealthy for you, rather than spending energy attempting to fix the problem or complaining, ask yourself what you really want from the relationship. Consider whether the other person truly considers your feelings or if they are willing to change their behavior. Ask yourself if you’ve often thought about ending the relationship or if you feel your bonds have atrophied. While every relationship has ups and downs, when there are more downs than ups or the two of you are bringing out the worst in each other, it may be time to sever the connection. Be honest with yourself and your answers, even if the truth is painful.

Relationships thrive on honesty, communication, mutual caring, and time spent together. When one or more of these elements are missing, it may be that the relationship, no matter how passionate, simply isn’t worth it. It’s far better to end a relationship that doesn’t feel right than to hold on to it and languish in feelings of anger or resentment. Moving on without struggle, on the other hand, can be the door that leads you to a more nurturing relationship in the future