Week 9: 7th to 13th June

This blog is being posted 6 weeks after returning to the UK – It was quite a full-on landing (10 nights at the Glastonbury Festival quickly followed) and life intervened. [Read more…]

Week 8: 31st May to 6 June

Having had a great recommendation from Eve and Catherine, I decided to make the journey to Untermeyer Gardens in Yonkers!




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Week 7: 24th to 30th May

After walking Ellie in Riverside Park I went over to Columbia Campus to kick-start my blog writing: I am so busy enjoying myself in NYC that I find it difficult setting aside time to write.





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Week 6: Wednesday 17th to Tuesday 23rd May

I decided to walk over to the East Side next to the United Nations building to visit Audrey Hepburn’s Garden, to discover there will be a Garden Party on Sunday to celebrate her birthday.

She was a very long-time resident of Turtle Bay, an avid gardener and a staunch advocate against enlarging 49th street.

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Week 5: Wednesday 10th to Tuesday 16th May

When you peruse the e mails of what’s on in NYC you can pick up some gems, like the Fotograviska gallery’s exhibition of 50 years of Hip Hop being free for one day with Amazon music donating one dollar for every person who visited the exhibition.


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Week 4: Wednesday 3rd to Tuesday 9th May

Wednesday 3rd May was the 15th Anniversary of my meeting Alfie for the first time in Crickhowell so I marked it with a Facebook Post. I miss him more than ever. One of my favourite photos of him was taken 4 years ago, at the age of 11 in Bayhead, New Jersey, standing in his inimitable majestic style. I do feel blessed that this very special being was my loving and faithful companion for nearly 15 years.



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Week 3: Wednesday 26th April to Tuesday 2nd May

Wednesday morning I set off for “Tavern to go” for a coffee & cookie, feeding crumbs to the birds (American robins and sparrows), [Read more…]

Week 2: Wednesday 19th to Tuesday 25th April

I awoke determined to visit one of my favourite places – Governor’s Island, just 800 yards from the tip of Manhattan. [Read more…]

Week 1: Wednesday 12th to Tuesday 18th April 2023

It is really hard being back in NYC without my precious Alfie.
Sometimes my heart just aches for him and then the tears flow. There are so many places that hold memories of the times I had with him here. At the same time, he has sent me several signs he is around me, still looking after me

(notably the thunderclap and rainbow with no lightening and a tiny amount of rain in the bluebell wood in the early morning before I left Bristol, after I asked him for a sign). I would give anything to be able to cuddle him again. [Read more…]

Farewell my best friend – our final post on this blog

Alfie and I were booked to return to NYC in April 2020 but the pandemic intervened….  Then on 5 August 2021 Alfie had a serious stroke, followed by 2 small strokes in September 2022, followed by a bigger one and a couple of smaller ones at the beginning of 2023. Being Alfie, he picked himself up and carried on every time, until he didn’t…

A few months before, I bought Alfie an Innopet Hercules stroller: with his severe hip dysplasia and arthritis I wanted us to be able to go out and about with him having a comfortable ‘portable bed’ for when he was tired and we made really good use of it. We would not have been able to take it with us to NYC and so his trips to NYC with me, where he had a lovely vet in Harlem, came to an end.

From then on it was me and Alfie together 24 hours a day. He had a double-bed sized 4 inch memory foam pad to rest on and I slept next to him on my sofa, giving us immediate access, day and night, from the living room into the garden – his favourite place.

And then, on 3 March 2023 I posted this heartbreaking entry on Facebook:


“ALFIE THE WONDERDOG 3.3.2008 – 1.3.2023

Today is the day that Alfie was born, 15 years ago.

But the day that every dog’s human companion dreads arrived on Wednesday. My precious, precious boy let me know that it was time to slip away. I had kept him comfortable in the night with an excess of pain killers and phoned Maria of Viking Vets the minute they opened.

She dropped everything to come to my house and help him and he went peacefully looking into my eyes. Veerle, his acupuncturist, was holding his paw across the miles. Both women offered Alfie and me so much support and love over the years. As Maria said “All dogs are special, and some are more special”. Veerle called him “Lazarus” because of his constant rallying over 18 months when it looked like it was time to go several times. In truth, neither Alfie nor I could let go of each other.

Friends came to say goodbye and help me dig his grave which will have 2 pear trees and flowers growing over it. I am doing the 49 day Bardo practice for him, sat every night next to his grave in candlelight.

Now he has gone I should be going back to sleep in my comfortable bed after 18 months of sleeping on the sofa next to him but I can’t because I need to be near the garden, near to his last resting place. I am broken. He was my life partner, my everything, loved by all for his beautiful spirit.

Run free over the Rainbow Bridge, my precious love. We will meet again. In the meantime, I will feel you near, invisible but always with me”

For the whole of March I have been experiencing intense grief peppered with occasions I have felt ‘normal’. It took me the whole month to be able to transition from sleeping downstairs to returning to my bedroom upstairs.

A candle burns day and night for him and I would do anything to be able to cuddle him again. The reality of his absence is hard to bear but on 31 March I was fortunate to have a zoom call with Bernie Scott, an amazing Medium (who helped me when my precious teacher, Akong Rinpoche, died). Suffice it to say that Alfie has now made it clear that he is with me, wherever I am, that he will not reincarnate but will greet me when it is my time to go: I am surrounded by his love.